How do I know if I need pain medication in labor?

One of the most common questions I hear from my Confident Birthing students is:

I’m planning on a natural birth. But, what I want to know is, how do I know if I’ve reached my limit? How do I know if I need pain medication, an epidural, or if I can push through without?

My answer is twofold.

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Back pain relief for pregnancy with Spand-Ice

Spand ice, pregnancy belly wrapWe will have a new product for you to test after all of our Prenatal Yoga classes this week. It’s  a great wrap for back pain relief.

Spand-Ice specializes in designing thermal therapy and compression clothing for back pain relief, inflammation and muscle soreness. They are currently designing a new maternity wrap version to help pregnant women get back pain treatment + support throughout their pregnancy.

The new maternity wrap uses hot or cold therapy into insulated pockets targeting the lower and mid back pain area. Two powermesh straps wrap around your belly (one under the bustline, the other under the belly) adding compression + support exactly where you need it.

There are a few, limited wraps available before they go into full production. If you are interested in purchasing one, please email Helen directly.

If you’d like to stay an extra few minutes after this week’s prenatal yoga classes, you are welcome to try on a wrap and see how it best suits you. This is only for classes 5/3 – 5/7

Why Self Advocacy is the Most Precious Gem You Can Possess

This is a guest post by Priya Amin, the founder of ROKI

I am a mom of two adorable, crazy boys, who light up my life and give me heartburn like you wouldn’t believe.  While I was pregnant with my first child, I had every intention of being the rockstar mom who could balance a hectic work schedule and being there for my son.  But after complications during delivery – my water breaking before contractions started, a negligent nurse ordering more pain meds before checking me which led to prolonged pushing and eventually having to use a vacuum assist to get my child out of me – once I held that little baby in my hands, my whole perspective on life changed, and I saw my career in a completely different light.  The first year of my sons life was hard – from having to recover from a difficult delivery, to having to drop him off at daycare at 12 weeks then travel for a whole week immediately after that, to crying every day at daycare drop off.  When I was contemplating cutting my schedule back at work, I was nervous about talking with my superiors about my decision, and with good reason.  I was basically given an “all or nothing” choice and decided to take “nothing” – i.e. staying home with my kids.  It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made in my life.

Self Empowerment, Shining Light Prenatal Education, PittsburghFast forward four years, and after I successfully re-entered the workforce after being home with my kids and freelancing on the side, I realized I needed to have a conversation with my boss to cut my schedule back.  I definitely had flashbacks to my first professional conversation at my former company, but this time, I was prepared.  I had numerous conversations with other colleagues and moms beforehand, and I went into the conversation advocating for myself, my family and my need to balance both.  I was clear and honest about my goals and how I saw myself getting there.  And the most unbelievable thing happened – my boss agreed to cut me back to part time so I could spend more time with my family!  

I have to admit though – I haven’t always been a great self advocator, but I’m getting MUCH better at it.  That’s because I’ve realized over the years, after talking to countless other moms who desperately want to make changes in their lives, that women (including myself) DO NOT ASK FOR WHAT WE NEED.  We somehow are either waiting for permission to ask for what we need (until we’ve hit a wall, fallen ill, or our child is ill) or feel as though we don’t deserve what we are asking for.  We’ve been led to believe that what we really need for ourselves and our families to feel balanced, happy and productive should not be a priority, isn’t important or worse, is a liability.  I’m here to tell you that’s complete bullshit.

Self Advocacy is the Doorway to Empowerment

Asking for what you need, whether at work or in life in general, is the key to unlocking the power that’s always been within you.  Instead of waiting for others to give permission or read our minds (as I’ve done so many times in the past), self advocating allows us to put ourselves in the forefront, and get what we’ve needed for so long.

Self Advocacy Should Not Be a Solo Thing

How often have you heard “If you want something done, do it yourself”?  Sure, it’s true, but when advocating for yourself and what you need, it’s important to talk to the RIGHT people and get those people on your side.  Getting the right people to have your back boosts your confidence and helps you get even closer to reaching your goals.  I’ve found immeasurable support through my family, friends, coworkers, even online moms groups, who help support and uplift one another.  Don’t try to go at it alone, darling.

Self Advocacy Is Hard at First….But Not Impossible

Like all difficult things, self advocacy takes practice.  It also takes a plan.  I’ve found that the best conversations I’ve had to get what I need were not ones where I tried to bully or manipulate the other person (which I can’t do anyway) or even negotiate with them, it’s when I have a concrete goal in mind, and actionable steps to get there.  When I share those steps with the person in question and how they can help me reach my goal, that’s where I’ve found the most success.  With my first employer, I had the goal in mind of spending more time with my kids, but I was looking to my employer to provide me with the steps to get there.  The second time around though, I had my end goal in mind, which was to strike a better professional balance, but I also had the steps in mind (work from home, drop to part time, work only on specific projects) and laid them out in a way that mutually benefited us.  Not only did it show my boss I was organized about my plan, but that I had put a good amount of thought into it too.

No matter what challenge you’re facing, either personal or professional, advocating for yourself is the key to navigating the issue in the best way possible.  I spent most of my life being a pushover and waiting for others to tell me what to do or how to do it – when I began standing up for what I needed and believed in, I began seeing a unique power within me I didn’t realize I had.  I now am on a journey to empower other women, who either haven’t found ways to advocate for themselves or who need that tribe of women behind them to support them.  Try it out today, even if it’s something like telling your husband “I needs to take a nap, and you need to take care of the kids for 1 hour…” and comment below on the outcome!

Priya Amin is the founder of ROKI, an empowering and supportive online network for professional moms looking to leap to what’s next in life.  Priya has two boys, Ronin & Kirin, the inspiration behind the name ROKI.  In the past, Priya has been called an Ever Evolving Optimist.

Birth is Beautiful, Poop is Progress, Early Labor – video

My next video in the Birth is Beautiful series is about poop. Yeah, I know… but when we don’t talk about the yucky stuff it’s that much worse. This is part one of three. Who knew there was so much to talk about regarding poop and childbirth?

Remember that Birth is Beautiful and Poop is Progress!

Please do share this video. It’ll help others to know more about what to expect during early labor.


Lock in the 2015 class prices! Prices go up Jan 1st

January 2016 marks Shining Light’s fourth anniversary in Lawrenceville. I’ve always considered my business to be my 3rd baby (my other babies are 10 and 6). As all babies grow, the way we parent and tend to them evolves.

“I wanted to thank you again for the amazing classes!
I cannot stress how impressed both Matt and I were with the quality of these classes, the interactive style in which they are taught, and your abundant knowledge on all things baby/pregnancy.”

Our classes are comprehensive, evidence-based and supportive. Our service is unparalleled. We work with families of all types and structures. As a small business, we have the flexibility to be more accommodating than does a larger institution. Whether you are looking for a natural birth, choose an epidural or schedule your c-section, we support you.

I love having this Center in Lawrenceville. The community has always been very welcoming. Many of our students walk to class. Our bright, open space always elicits a joyous response from students as they walk in. The natural sunlight we get during the day enlivens not just the space itself, but our collective moods.

Beyond the physical space, there is an emotional connection. Our students connect with one another and with our teachers here. This is a long lasting community, not just of students, but of friends.

“Thank you so much for your support, the classes were tremendously helpful and my husband and I definitely referred back to that information dozens of times during this wild journey. I hope you are doing well, I definitely miss the community that Shining Light has gathered together!”

So, I wanted to give you the heads up that come Jan 1st, our rent goes up. To ensure we can continue to offer you the same high-quality classes, workshops and support groups in our much-loved location, prices will go up on Jan 1, 2016.

Lock in your 2015 prices by purchasing your classes, workshops or packages before Jan 1st. You will be able to get the 2015 prices for 2016 classes.

“Hands down the best class (Confident Birthing) I took before my baby. It prepares you for every kind of birth situation and gave me confidence to pursue my natural birth.”
~ Sarah

See you at the Center!